She shoots she scores!

So just how can you set a goal, shoot and end up between the posts? By asking the right questions!

Let me explain. I recently had a conversation with a friend who was applying for a second part time job. I asked her why she was applying for the position as it was well below her capabilities. I enquired whether it was for some extra money or if it was something she really wanted to do. She seemed a little surprised at my questions.  As she replied, her answers gave away the real truth.  What she said was that she wanted a change. As we talked it became apparent there was a lack of self belief and confidence in her own abilities.  She was applying for positions where there was little risk or challenge that would cause her to feel stretched or challenged. When I asked if she saw herself doing this same job in five or ten years, she abruptly replied ‘oh no’.   So, what do you want for your life in five or ten years I asked?  ‘I want to be rich’ was her reply.  My response was that this was not going to happen on the wage of a part time receptionist!

She made quick progress after this point.  She could see that she was asking herself all the wrong questions.  Finance is an issue for her at the moment and so the prospect of having some extra income was most appealing and necessary. But instead of looking much further ahead at the bigger picture, she was focusing on the here and now instead.  Consequently, there was no planning for how she could become rich at all!

Like so many of us, she had become entangled with the pressures of day to day living.  She wasn’t asking the right questions and so was getting the wrong answers.  By asking the correct questions we can give the best possible solutions to turn our dreams into reality.

Read and apply the following 7 steps to reach your goal:

Step 1. 

What I really, really want!

Ask yourself what it is you really want to achieve and by when.  Be ruthlessly honest with yourself. Get to the bottom of your deepest thoughts.  Ask questions like …

‘What would happen if I did…’

‘Am I willing to go to any length to…’

‘If I could wave a magic wand, what would my life look like?’

‘Just how much success/happiness/joy can I cope with?’

How will I feel if the next 12 months are the same as the last?’

What would happen if I don’t make any changes to my life in the next 6 months?’

These questions are designed to help you focus on what you really want and on what you do not!  Make sure you discover the bigger picture for
your life rather than focusing on the detail.  For example, you might decide you want a different job. But what you are really looking for is a challenge or deeper satisfaction or greater responsibility.  That way, even if you go for a job and don’t get it, you can look for your outcome in another form. The goal hasn’t changed, the route to it has.

Step 2.

Preparation

Many don’t prepare before they start on their desired goals and launch themselves into cruel regimes which they are too addicted to simply stop overnight.  Before you decide what it is you want to achieve, have a time of preparation.  Prepare your mind, your schedule, and your friends, colleagues and family (where appropriate) for action.

Prepare by:

  • Setting a start date( at least a week before you start)
  • Begin focusing on your desired outcomes(visualization)
  • Making an action plan
  • Setting a time scale
  • Gaining support of family/friends/colleagues. Join a support group(e.g. stopping smoking)
  • Be realistic

 Step 3

Take Action!

Move from the thinking zone to the doing zone. Don’t procrastinate!  The human mind is an incredible organ.  It knows exactly what we want to do.  If we really don’t want to do something, it will find a way for us to put it off, or not do it at all.  The minute we start saying we should do something, (stop smoking, lose weight, get fit, go for promotion) it knows we don’t really want to do it and we are subconsciously looking for delaying tactics.  Because it wants to help us, it searches out something else for us to do instead!  Clever stuff eh?  What’s even cleverer is if we find a way to focus on a goal that maximizes our minds potential to subconsciously energize us and stimulate us in the direction we want to go.  Then, our conscious and unconscious minds are working in harmony to thrust us towards our desired results.

Step 4

Strengthen your muscles of discipline, perseverance, determination and courage.  Without these you will not succeed.

Step 5

Reward yourself as you see growth.  A manicure, massage or meal out are all perfect treats for such an occasion

Step 6

Be kind to yourself when things don’t go according to plan. Sometimes even the best laid plans go to pot.  Start the next day afresh leaving any
mistakes behind, focusing on the benefits/ results you desire.

Step 7

Celebrate your successes with style.  Be proud of your achievements and the person you have become

So, dare to set that goal, shoot and score!

 

 

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6 Responses to She shoots she scores!

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    Cool website Alison.
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    Plenty of food for thought!
    Patricia Mc

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      Thanks Pat. Really pleased you like the site and the posts. If there’s anything you’d like to see an article on, let me know and I’ll give it a whirl.

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